Adoptive Family Services
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With all the things you have to juggle now, spending time wondering and worrying about the adoption process is the last thing you need to be doing. Here is a brief overview of the process. Keep in mind each case is unique. We can talk you through your case in detail when you are ready.
Step by step adoption
Step 1: Contact an Adoption Professional
Finding out you are pregnant can be an overwhelming experience, especially when it’s a surprise. There are so many questions that can be overwhelming. How did this happen? When did this happen? What does this mean for my future? Contacting a licensed adoption agency and talking with a team member can help you calmly discuss your concerns and options. The team at Ka Makana offer a safe and non-judgmental environment to talk about pregnancy, parenting, adoption, and abortion. Our adoption professionals will go over what the adoption process would look like for you in your specific situation and state, as well as whether an adoption plan is the best option for you.
Step 2: Discuss Details of Adoption Plan with Your Ka Makana team member
If you decide adoption is the best choice for you and your baby, you and your Ka Makana team member will talk in-depth and create a personalized adoption plan. We are professionals who can help you figure out what type of adoption would be the best for you.
What degree of openness do you want, Open, semi-open or closed?
What qualities do you want your child’s adoptive parent(s) to have?
How do you envision your hospital experience?
All of these questions will help you make your adoption plan. Ka Makana will send you a physical or digital packet of educational information. If you want to take the next step in creating an adoption plan, your packet will also include a questionnaire for you to fill out. The form includes general questions about yourself and the future you hope to provide for your baby. All of the information you provide to us is completely confidential. We will work one on one with you to discuss the packet and answer any questions that you might have. Keep in mind if you ever want to make any changes to your adoption plan it is okay to do so at any point during your adoption. Your well-being is our first concern. We offer support before, during and after your placement of your baby.
Step 3: Choose an Adoptive Family
What type of family do you imagine for your baby?
The adoption process creates an opportunity to make that vision a reality by providing you with the opportunity to select the family you want for your baby. Here are some helpful tips to help you choose an adoptive family!
Open, semi-open or closed? The most important thing to consider when planning your child’s life is where you do you see yourself in it. Be genuine and honest with yourself about the level of openness you are comfortable with. Open adoption usually includes some sort of regular contact between the birth parents and the adoptive family. The degree of “openness” is dependent upon each situation and is up to you. Contact can include sharing photos, phone calls, video calls, texts, and in-person visits. Semi-open is contact with photos and letters provided through the adoption agency or adoption professional you are working with. Closed adoption is when you have no plan to continue contact after placing the child.
What qualities do you want your child's adoptive parents to have?
With the amount of amazing couples looking to adopt it can be difficult to narrow it down to one. We recommend you write down the qualities that you want the adoptive family to have. Be honest about your desires from the start to give yourself a healthy relationship with your adoption plan. This decision is life-changing for your child, for yourself and also for the adoptive family. Honesty will provide a stable starting point, especially with all the emotions that come with making this decision. There are no right or wrong feelings to have when considering what you want a family to be like. Being as specific as possible will help us connect you with families that will fit with what you are looking for. Once you begin choosing an adoptive family, you must follow your heart. It’s very hard to explain what this means, but when you choose the right adoptive family for your child, you will just feel that it’s right. Your heart will be filled with a sense of comfort and peace. If you are having a difficult time making a list of qualities that you want the adoptive family to have, here are some suggestions:
What is important to you in a family?
What values are you wanting the family to have and practice?
Would you want to place your baby with a traditional marriage, same-sex or single?
What level of education would you like the adoptive parents to have?
In what location do you want your child to live?
Are you okay with them having other children or do you wish for this child to be their first?
Do you want your child’s adoptive parents to share your same religious beliefs or none at all?
Would you like the family to have a family pet or not?
Talking with the potential adopting parents. The search is over and now you’ve found an adoptive family profile that fits your vision of the type of parent(s) you want for your baby. Your Ka Makana team member will discuss with you the different forms of communication that you can have with the adoptive family and find one that makes you most comfortable. Ka Makana will reach out to the family and coordinate an introduction. Don’t be afraid to ask questions and bring up concerns that you might have. Take the time to develop a bond. You are making a permanent decision and you need to make sure you’re making the best choice for you and the baby.
With the number of amazing couples looking to adopt it can be difficult to narrow your decision down to one family. We recommend you write down the qualities that you want the adoptive family to have. Be honest about your desires from the start to give yourself a healthy relationship with your adoption plan. This decision is life-changing for your child, for yourself and also for the adoptive family. Honesty will provide a stable starting point, especially with all the emotions that come with making this decision. There are no right or wrong feelings to have when considering what you want a family to be like. Being as specific as possible will help us connect you with families that will fit with what you are looking for. Once you begin choosing an adoptive family, you must follow your heart. It’s very hard to explain what this means, but when you choose the right adoptive family for your child, you will just feel that it’s right. Your heart will be filled with a sense of comfort and peace. If you are having a difficult time making a list of qualities that you want the adoptive family to have, here are some suggestions:
Step 4: Birth of Your Baby
Making a hospital plan is a very important step in the adoption process. While nothing can completely prepare you for this emotional experience, having an adoption hospital birth plan in place before you go into labor tells your Ka Makana team member, the adoptive family, and the hospital staff exactly what you want your hospital time to be like so that your only focus is on you and the baby. Similar to your adoption plan, you are in complete control of your birth plan. Ka Makana will help prepare you for the possible emotions you can expect at the hospital. This will be one of the most emotionally challenging parts of your adoption experience and discussing those feelings when making your hospital plan can help you feel more confident and in control of your delivery experience. Your Ka Makana team member will assist you to develop an outline of exactly what you want your labor and delivery experience to be like. Keep in mind if you ever want to make any changes to your adoption hospital plan it is okay to do so at any point during your adoption and even at the hospital. Here are some of the questions to consider while planning your hospital plan.
Which family members or friends do you want with you at the hospital?
Do you want the adoptive family in the delivery room?
Who will hold your baby first?
Do you want to have time with your baby alone, with the adoptive family, or both? Do you want no alone time with the baby?
Do you want any pictures taken of you with the baby? Do you want pictures taken with the adoptive family?
Step 5: Relinquishment/Consent
Relinquishment/Consent is when parents sign documents legalizing the adoption plan. While what the documents say differs from state to state, the purpose of them is to transfer the physical care and legal custody of a baby for whom adoption is planned from that of the biological parents to the adoptive family. Birth mothers usually cannot relinquish until after the child is born, and in some states, must wait several days after giving birth before consent may legally be given.
If you are reading this article, know that you are not alone. This can feel like one of the loneliest times in your life. Most recent CDC.gov studies show that 45% of pregnancies in the United States are unplanned. If you would like someone to talk to about all of your options, we are here for you. Our conversations are always supportive, confidential and professional. You are strong, you will get through this and you will make the best decision that is right for you and your baby. We believe in you and are here to help you.